How to Prepaer for First Appointment with Psychologist: Expectations, Preparations, Do's and Don'ts.


Prepare for First Appointment with Psychologist:

1. Introduction and Rapport Building:

At Manospandana, prepare for first appointment with psychologist by introducing yourself and then your therapist will introduce themselves and explain their therapeutic approach, aiming to create a safe and welcoming environment for you or both partners.

2. Discussion of Goals:

You’ll discuss the reasons you’re seeking therapy and what you hope to achieve, helping to set clear goals for your sessions.

3. Background Information:

For individual counseling, the therapist may inquire about your personal history, including family background, education, work, and any significant life events. For relationship counseling, this includes the history of your relationship, significant events, and the current state of your relationship.

4. Current Concerns:

You’ll have the opportunity to talk about the issues you’re currently facing, including symptoms, feelings, and situations that led you to seek help.

5. Assessment:

The therapist might ask questions to understand your mental health status, coping mechanisms, and any past experiences with therapy. For couples, the therapist will also observe and comment on the interaction patterns between you and your partner.

6. Setting the Framework:

The therapist will explain how sessions will work at Manospandana, covering confidentiality, session frequency, and any guidelines or expectations.

7. Initial Feedback:

You might receive some initial observations or suggestions from the therapist based on your discussion.

How to Prepare:

1. Reflect on Issues:

Think about the issues you want to address in therapy. Be ready to discuss your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors related to these issues.

2. Set Goals:

Consider what you hope to achieve through counseling at Manospandana. Having clear goals can help guide the therapy process.

3. Gather Information:

Be prepared to share relevant personal and relationship history, if applicable.

4. Be Open-Minded:

Approach the session with an open mind and be ready to engage in the process.

5. Write Down Questions:

If you have any questions about the therapist’s methods, qualifications, or the therapy process, write them down to bring to the session.

6. Avoid Blame and Criticism:

For relationship counseling, focus on expressing your feelings without blaming or criticizing your partner to create a constructive environment.

Do’s and Don’ts:


1. Be Honest and Open:

Share your thoughts and feelings truthfully to help the therapist understand the real issues.

2. Listen Actively:

Pay attention to what is being said without interrupting. Show that you value the therapist’s or your partner’s perspective.

3. Stay Respectful:

Maintain a respectful tone and avoid blaming or criticizing your partner in couples counseling.

4. Be Open to Feedback:

Be willing to hear feedback from the therapist, even if it’s difficult to hear.

5. Ask Questions:

If you’re unsure about anything, ask the therapist for clarification.

6. Express Your Goals:

Clearly articulate what you hope to achieve through counseling.

7. Stay Present:

Focus on the session and avoid distractions to make the most of your time.

8. Take Notes:

If helpful, take notes on key points, feedback, or any suggestions from the therapist.


1. Don’t Interrupt:

Allow others to speak without interruption. This shows respect and willingness to listen.

2. Avoid Blame and Criticism:

For couples, refrain from blaming or criticizing your partner. Use “I” statements to express how you feel (e.g., “I feel hurt when…”).

3. Don’t Hold Back:

Avoid withholding important information, as transparency helps the therapist understand the full picture.

4. Avoid Defensiveness:

Try not to get defensive if difficult feedback is shared. Listen and consider the perspective being offered.

5. Don’t Expect Instant Solutions:

Understand that therapy is a process, and immediate solutions may not be found in the first session.

6. Don’t Dominate the Conversation:

Ensure there is a balance in speaking time, especially in couples counseling.

7. Avoid Overloading Issues:

Focus on the most pressing issues rather than overwhelming the session with too many problems.

8. Don’t Criticize the Therapist:

If you have concerns about the therapist’s approach, express them respectfully rather than being confrontational.

By following these guidelines, you can create a productive and positive environment for your first counseling appointment at Manospandana, avoiding common pitfalls such as blame and criticism, and setting a constructive tone for future sessions.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)....

  • Know what you’re looking for: Before you meet with your psychologist, therapist or counselor, make sure you understand what you hope to achieve by seeing him or her. 

  • Ask Questions: You should also think about any questions you might have before your appointment.
  • Be honest about your past experiences: It’s important to be open and honest when talking to your counselor. If you feel comfortable doing so, share your thoughts about your childhood, family life, school, friends, romantic relationships, work, finances, and other topics.
  • Bring a list of medications you take: 
  • Have someone drive you to your appointment: If you’re going to see a counselor, you might want to consider having someone drive you there. That person could be a friend, family member, or spouse. The reason? Because if you’re driving yourself, you might get distracted and forget something important.
  • The psychologist will ask questions about your symptoms and history

  • Might probe you more about present concerns related to thinking, feelings, behaviors, and bodily changes. 
  • Might ask more about your present stressors and concerns.
  • Might ask something in connection to relationship aspects which has a direct impact on the present conditions. 

The standard duration of the first appointment for individual counseling will be for 50 minutes and 90 minutes for any type of relationship, parent-child, and family counseling.  However, it might vary slightly based on the concern and needs. 

  • Nonjudgmental confidential venting space, where you can share anything and everything without getting judged. 
  • Assurance and validation wherever required. 
  • Opportunity to learn skills and techniques to manage your emotions, thinking, and behaviors
  • Opportunity to explore the possibility of enhancing personal and professional relationships. 

It varies from case to case, person to person. Depends on

  • what is the concern about
  •  The present insight and awareness level of the client
  • His or her adopting capacity for the change. 
  • Change process, pace, and adaptability.
  • and many more

We practice humanistic and client-centered approaches. We practice eclectic approach in Manospandana. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Transactional Analysis (TA), Choice Theory Based Reality Therapy (CTBRT), Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT), Mindfulness are the few counseling and psychotherapy approaches that we adopt in our practice.